A Day of Romance

Valentine’s Day, to some folks, is the worst day of the year, especially if they are not in a relationship or don’t have a date. I’m going to give you some advice on how you can successfully navigate the challenges of the day and have a perfect evening.

SELECT  THE RIGHT GIFT

One of the major Valentine’s Day pitfalls to avoid is choosing the wrong gift. For guys, if this is your very first date, don’t give her a gift. If you’re invite her out, you should pay for dinner. If Valentine’s Day happens to fall in the early stages of a new romance, it can be pretty confusing. In addition to the above, flowers are ok…but have them delivered prior to the date (goes for both guys and girls), do not bring them with you at the date.

You also don’t need to buy a full bouquet, two or three roses are enough to express your feelings. Things change when you’re buying a Valentine’s Day gift if you’re involved in a steady romance. Here you can be adventurous and buy a gift that reflects the nature of the relationship. This is the time to buy a gift that is unique and represents admiration for the other person’s qualities, not just their looks or “hotness”.

THE DATE

Now that you have obtained the proper gift, there is still much to be done before setting up the perfect date, and you should start early. Spend the day flirting with him or her via text messages. Tease them (they say teasing is a sign of affection), entice them, keep the other person excited about the special evening they will have with you , and that this is not just another date. This is something special and you are going to make it memorable.

Anyone can give a bunch of flowers, and a box of candy, but only someone with a fine imagination can make it wonderful. Keep your attitude fun and playful. It’s important to be interested, AND be interesting. You need to fascinate and engage them. In the end, these are the things that matter the most, not the location or the expensive gifts.

HAVE DESSERT

Don’t forget dessert! Women specially…., they love chocolate. The sexiest thing about chocolate is its taste and its unique melt-in-your-mouth quality. Try a bowl of strawberries and dipping chocolate. This will be amazingly fun and exciting.

USE FRAGRANCE

No…I don’t mean you should go ahead and bathe in perfume. A lot of people are alergic to the scent of alcoholized perfume, so use non-alcoholic or oil based scents. You can buy it at any natural food or aromatherapy store. You can also use an assortment of different fragrant flowers strategically placed to fill the room.

Remember…It’s about you creating a memorable experience for your date. Now go have fun!

Is your insecurity the biggest problem?

There are a lot of guys - and gals - out there, who are struggling with their relationships. Either they can’t find someone to be with or if they are with somebody, they can’t connect with them the way they would want to. 

Let’s say you’re a guy and are trying to get into a relationship with a woman, but have these self-doubts that you may not be a very attractive person, or rich, or very muscular, or any of the lame excuses that you have come up with in your mind. If you continue to think this way, you won’t get too far.

Instead, think of yourself as a person of value. When you look at yourself in the mirror, do you see a human being who can benefit others, or do you see a worthless slob. I’m sure most folks don’t like to be called worthless slobs, but in their minds they are coming up with all sorts of excuses as to why and how they are losers.

When a man is talking to a good looking woman, he becomes nervous, because he starts to think that he may say things that may be percieved as silly or stupid. What you have to do is realize that no matter who you are talking to, no matter how attractive they may be, they have their own insecurities, just like everyone else. They may seem confident, but underneath all that charm and beauty, is a person who is insecure about something.

If you want to be successful in relationships, or any area of your life for that matter, you have to change your thought process. Work hard to improve in all areas of your life. Insecurity is an ugly thing, so confront the root cause of your negative self image and get rid of negativity from your mind. Remember…happiness is a choice.

Who should pay on a date?

A lot of people, when out on a date, are confused as to who should pay for the date. Should it be the person who asked out the other person? should the man always pay? or is it better to take turns ?

I believe that you should split the bill, specially if you’re out on a first date. That way there is no obligation on the other party to pay next time, in-case the date does not go too well and you decide not to go for the second.

Treat the first few dates as a ‘getting-to-know-you’ sessions, where you don’t have to go to a restaurant or some other expensive place. Meet your date at a cafe or a juice bar and just learn more about the other person. If the two of you hit it off, then there won’t be any awkwardness when it comes time to pay on other dates.